Loneliness can creep up on you in the colder months. The long dark days and the chilly weather can make it harder to get out and about. Before you know it, feelings of isolation can start sneaking up on you.
Loneliness is something the world is taking increasingly seriously, particularly as research has found it can be as bad for the body as smoking. A University of Otago study also found it can increase the likelihood of going into rest home care. Long term loneliness affects mental wellbeing, while also putting you at increased risk of heart disease, type 2 diabetes, arthritis and Alzheimer’s disease, so it’s something we need to act on. Adults aged over 65 and those aged 15–24 are the most at risk.
The warning signs
The symptoms of loneliness can be many and varied. The Conquering Loneliness in NZ and Let’s End Loneliness websites offer lots of information on what to look out for in yourself and others and what you can do about it. But here are a few tips to help get you through the winter months.
Tips for staving off winter loneliness
Get fresh air and time outside each day (preferably in the first half of the day).
Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is a form of depression that is quite common and increases at this time of year when we’re stuck inside more often. It can bring with it low mood and lethargy and suck your enthusiasm for getting out and doing the things you usually enjoy. Getting plenty of time outside can help ward it off and if you think you might have it, seek advice from your GP.
Keep warm!
A study on social exclusion found that if we’re cold, we’re more likely to be lonely as we hunker down and stop reaching out to others. So, try to keep yourself toasty warm in winter and you’ll be more likely to keep up your social interaction.
Reach out to others
Age Concern suggests small things like inviting a friend over for a coffee or lunch or go to the movies. You can also head down to the local swimming pool and take part in things like Aqua Aerobics, or just enjoy the water yourself and stop for a chat with others. Join a choir or your local RSA or Cossie Club.
Join a walking group
This ticks lots of boxes – getting outside, warming yourself up and connecting with others. And you’ll be keeping yourself healthy at the same time. Check out Age Concern’s Companion Walking Service.
Volunteer
There’s no faster way to make yourself feel good, than by doing good. And there are volunteering roles out there to fit everyone’s interests. Check out Volunteering NZ for ideas. You could even become a Caring Caller with St John and help other people who are feeling lonely.
Use winter to start a new interest
Every fancied line-dancing? Or been keen to pick up woodworking? Use winter as the time to get started. Trying something new will give you a lift and get you out and about. If you can’t think of anything, get in touch with your local Age Concern – they can let you know what activities and groups are available in your area.
Contact a befriending service
Age Concern has a visitor service that provides regular visits to older people who would like more company. Get in touch with them for help.
Don’t let transport issues stop you
Age Concern can help with ideas on community organisations that provide free or low-cost transport options to help get you to where you need to go. They also suggest checking out things like the Total Mobility Scheme – which provides subsidised door-to-door transport services for those with long-term impairments. Age Concern or your local council can give you more details.
